GETTING MARRIED EARLY: 11 THINGS TO EXPECT + MY EXPERIENCE

So i got an email from one of my readers and she asked about 'getting married early' and i guess a lot of people have been wondering how old i am or when i got married, yea you, don't lie you've been wondering too and am ready to spilllllllll it out(snapping fingers). First of all i got married on 1st of September, 2012 to the love of my life and yes i was 21 so my hubby is way way older than me but he's my speck as in am
attracted to older men. yea before then i dated younger but deep in my heart i always knew i wanted to end up with an older dude like my hubby. winks


Second of all i am 25years old with two kids and obviously married for 4 years so i gat little marriage experience...lol. anyways i read and hear a lot of times when people say you shouldn't marry early or wait till you have achieved all sorts but what i want to say is that marriage is what two of you i.e you and your hubby make out of it cause it's a team work  and it's a thing of choice not age.

Some will say don't make it seem like it's perfect for you, nahhhhhh holup, it isn't perfect, it comes with its own cross and expectations and sometimes you can carry and other times you don't get what you expected and one thing you have to know is that you keep on learning. them no dey learn finish for marriage. keep that at the back of your head. 

i can remember when the talk of marriage came, a lot of people asked me why i was getting married, some even said i entered it for money and some even went as far as saying i used juju from port harcourt river and that it won't last up to 3 years. So a lot of people will doubt you, say thrash, try to persuade you from getting married and tell you all the things you will miss out and yes you will miss out but at the end it will all be worth it.

At a point in the marriage, you will start doubting yourself, especially if your main friends are still single and seriously flexing but you are at home taking care of two kids plus sleepless nights.

Priorities will change, you will no longer be interested in some things that you are used to, the way  you dress, talk, reason plus you will even loose a lot of friends in the process. For me i have lost most of my friends but i believe everything is for a reason.

You will be expected to born sharp sharp, yes...unto say you are young so a lot of people assume that you are very fertile so if you mistakenly waste time, them go start to worry. i can remember i was in school and my school didn't allow pregnancy so when i wasn't carrying a big pot on my stomach, questions started flowing plus i started doubting my self but thank God  i am a mom of two.

Everybody's experience isn't the same so don't use others experience to judge your matter. yes i didn't go for honeymoon after my wedding, yes i didn't get a car as a wedding gift or a diamond ring but we are still here doing it together like partners and lovers. So i don't give a hoot what others are wearing or where others are living. the plain truth is for you guys to be crasing for each other and other things will follow.

You may not know how to cook everything now or organize, it's a learning process. Thank God for the internet, anything you want to know is there from food recipes to relationship tips to bedroom skills..lol but na true now...so don't be scared or worried you might not get it right. No body gets it right even the older ones. It's how you handle it that matters. 

You might loose it a little especially to know what's in vogue or what is trending...that's what tv and internet are for...keep your self in the know by watching and browsing. 

Take care of your self, don't say you are too young so nothing dey happen...things dey happen ooo especially down there. i even wrote a post about how i take care of my vagina, if you are interested to get tips please read it HERE 

Expect less and give it all to GOD. make him the head and every other thing will be added unto you...favor, blessings, peace. love, togetherness... Amen. Kindly share this post if it was helpful to you. i love you for reading and till my next post...

XOXO