Q&A: MARRIAGE, BEING A MOM AND HOW TO GET OVER NEGATIVITY

HI people, i get asked a lot about my marriage, being a mom and how i cope with negative people and feeling and first of all i will like to say, i am not perfect and am not a genius or half in this things, just a woman, wife and mom going through stuffs like you probably even going through life more than you. I will answer generally even though there were specific questions which were sent and these are more like tips on how it is working for me. So what i did was to go through the question and i will basically answer them as sincere as i can.

ON MARRIAGE;

People ask me how I've coped being that i got married when i was 21, i did a post about GETTING MARRIED EARLY: 11 THINGS TO EXPECT + MY EXPERIENCE yea truthfully it's not being easy, there have been ups and downs, sweets and bitters and everything in between. I will say in this little four years of, i have learnt a lot basically trying to avoid a lot of things and stopped telling a lot of people about my marriage. cause everyone has an opinion and if you are not careful you will make a big mistake. Marriage is God, love, wisdom and any other thing you decide to follow and it takes two to tangle...if you are the only one in the relationship then it will not last and another thing is when you guys have issues, it's not everything you say, even when you settle, you can hurt your partner with those words you said 10 years ago for a long time cause you can forgive but probably will never forget. Finally marriage is understanding, if you don't understand that you and your spouse are different people from different homes and different lifestyles then it will be difficult to understand the person and that will bring discord between you too. Whatever you do always welcome God first because no matter what you see on social media marriages, it takes the will and grace of God to be in it like our parents did.

ON BEING A MOM:

A lot of people will say being a mom has being the best experience for them but it has being the most difficult task i have done in my life...bringing a soul into this world and making sure they are well taken care of is a blessing..It's not being easy, sometimes i get overwhelmed and want to run away but the love and bond keeps me going. I have learnt to put my kids before anything else or decisions i want to take. So being a mom is serious work but with perseverance you will do it.

ON NEGATIVITY:

When you allow negative people or things surround you, then your life becomes negative. I can remember having this awkward feeling about my self like low self esteem because i surrounded my self with fake ass people who couldn't take me for who i am or try to encourage me or better still just leave me but instead they bad mouthed me and my well being. So i feel it's up to you take away what you know isn't adding into your life or making you want to push. People and things come and go, only you can make your self happy and contented.

I hope this tips helps you as it's helping me..yes i use them everyday and i am seeing a lot of changes in my life....thanks to those that send in their questions (lolo, eby, amara, tokunbo, jose, amanda, aisha, omolara, doshima )and i will be glad to answer more...I love you for reading and till my next post...xoxo